Why Don’t Indian Girls Want To Get Married?

The world, including India, is witnessing a remarkable transformation in women’s roles and aspirations. Indian women, with their courage and determination, are breaking free from traditional confines, pursuing education and financial independence. This empowerment goes beyond employment; women today are not just earning but also saving and investing, securing their future.

With financial independence, women are more than just confident; they are in control of their lives. They no longer seek permission or validation for their choices and decisions. Excelling in their careers, they seize opportunities that enhance their visibility and success. This confidence is reflected in their personal lives, which they manage more independently. Unlike earlier generations conditioned to dream primarily of marriage and family, young girls today aspire to build careers and professions. While marriage might happen, it is no longer the sole dream. Their canvas is bigger, and aspirations are broader, leading many to delay or even avoid marriage, favouring the freedom and independence of a single life. Societal expectations are no longer a primary concern; they challenge these norms with courage and confidence.

So, what drives young girls to avoid /delay marriage and choose prolonged singlehood? Do they no longer believe in the institution of marriage, or is it something else?

It’s not that they oppose marriage itself; rather, they oppose its patriarchal form prevalent in societies like ours. They believe in marriage, but not as it currently exists in India. Many see marriage as a loss of freedom and independence, fearing it would lead to subjugation. This perception stems from witnessing their mothers sacrifice aspirations and ambitions for marriage. These mothers, though educated and financially independent, found their independence limited to earning money. They juggled careers and household responsibilities, enduring immense struggles without external support. Conditioned to believe home management was solely their duty, they faced relentless pressure to excel in all areas without choice. Their lives made independence seem an unattainable dream.

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This struggle likely influenced them to raise their daughters to value their freedom. Today’s girls are more assertive, refusing subordinate roles, and are fiercely independent and ambitious. They work hard to maintain their independence, even if it means delaying or forgoing marriage. They understand that financial independence is crucial for maintaining their freedom and liberty.

Their fears are not unfounded, and if we scratch below the surface, we will understand their apprehensions. Society has historically restricted women’s freedoms, often forcing them to choose between careers and personal lives or to excel in both under immense pressure. Women have faced societal demands for perfection in all roles, frequently bowing to these expectations. Moreover, this notion of perfection has been justified and glorified, trapping women in its grip. The label “SUPERWOMAN” exemplifies how society has chosen to glamorise all this pressure, giving it a fancy name.

This history has bred anger and resentment, making today’s women reluctant to relinquish their hard-won freedom. Their reluctance stems more from fear than opposition; they don’t want to endure their mothers’ struggles and thus take their time.

We are in a stage of transition, moving towards an inclusive world. Going forward, society and men bear a significant responsibility to alleviate these fears. Men must support and ally with women, working towards an equitable world. Society needs to normalise and appreciate the division of marital responsibilities, discarding traditional gender roles. What the present scenario reveals is that while women are forging ahead, men still have a lot of catching up to do.

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Hello! I’m Sangeeta Relan. Aside from being an educationist teaching at the university level for the last 28 years, I have been a corporate wife and a mother to two boys who have now flown the nest. I love cooking, singing, travelling and exploring new places.

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