What happens when we don’t have boundaries in life?

As per the dictionary, a boundary is a line that marks the limits of something and divides it from other places or things. So it is like a barrier that helps protect something that is inside it from things outside. Which means to say that whatever is inside it is something special, something precious that needs to be protected, needs to be safeguarded.

In life, the most precious thing for us is and should be our own self. Since it is precious, it needs to be protected and hence there is a great need for boundaries in life. We have to set limits to how much we can tolerate, how much we can give in a relationship. While it is good to be selfless and generous and giving it is most certainly not good being treated like a pushover.

We need boundaries to set limits to how people treat us or be with us. Sometimes out of our love or respect for the other person, we let them get away with just about anything. We adjust, we compromise, we bend backwards just so that they can get what they want, do what they want. We feel that if we love them, then we should be willing to do everything and anything for them. We should be there for them no matter what.

Now while the sentiment is to be appreciated and acknowledged, it is critical not to go overboard with it and let others get away with everything. There should be a limit up to which things may be tolerated but not thereafter. This should be made clear to others but most of all, to our own self. That is because we are the ones who are guilty of not defining boundaries in the first place.

Moreover, the act of giving, of sacrificing should not be a regular feature. We should not be seen as someone who will give in all the time. Because that spells danger for us, for our being. That makes us susceptible to manipulation by others. People will then take advantage of our giving nature and take us for granted. You can not allow that and let people take advantage of your good nature. When you do that you are letting people invade your space, your happiness, your peace of mind. And no one can let that happen to them. What is more, by doing that you are taking away the value of your goodness. You are undermining yourself.

So an act of goodness, of kindness, may take on unkind ramifications for you !! And that is not something you want. Do you??

So all you selfless people out there, care about your self too!!